askchapo

How about: "The N word is not for white people to feel like they're winning at things(including humor and making people laugh.) It's for black people to reclaim power over something they've been dehumanized with for hundreds of years. It's not for you to reclaim. Although many non-black comedians like to do it and many people find them funny, there's great reason why you still shouldn't say the N word. Even if it makes some people feel nice, it has a sinister side despite any good intentions. The video explains a common uncomfortableness I personally couldn't quite understand until I watched it."

Seperate text: "Even though I think its not okay you're specifically doing an exact thing in this video, I still appreciate your intent and your great quality of trying to create good vibes however you can. This does not mean at all that I'd disown you as a friend. Its just to say take a step back and examine what youre doing"

Humor is not my strength, so maybe being straightforward and gentle at once would be good enough. That's the most I can put in my own words for now. I'm overwhelmed by the length of your examples but I could understand it much better than your last comment. I've said it before, my reading comprehension isn't the best. But thank you so much for using examples.