askchapo

Some context: I'm not black and don't live in the black experience.

I found this video essay involving modern blackfacing and minstrel shows called The Evolution of the Culture Vulture interesting. Some white guy i know started saying the n word ending with an "a" as a joke when almost 30 years old. I only see him once every several years and idk if I should send him this video. We dont talk in between those years. He's mostly associated with my boyfriend, and they can go over a year without talking. If I end up doing that I would say "Even though I think its not okay you're specifically doing an exact thing in this video, I still appreciate your intent and your great quality of trying to create good vibes however you can. This does not mean at all that I'd disown you as a friend. Its just to say take a step back and examine what youre doing when you..." Idk i can't think of how to discuss this with him so here I am.

He's a busy guy, he may never watch the video. I have social anxiety too so I may never send anything. I just want to know how to carry out a convo about this and still want advice anyways. That shit really bothered me and I couldn't place why until seeing the video.