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A "Showerthought" is a simple term used to describe the thoughts that pop into your head while you're doing everyday things like taking a shower, driving, or just daydreaming. The most popular seem to be lighthearted clever little truths, hidden in daily life.

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We shower in a society, and we are responsible for it (lemmy.world)

submitted 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) by gndagreborn@lemmy.world to c/showerthoughts@lemmy.world

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So as a kid, I was raised on the idea of taking responsibility and accountability for mistakes, actions, and work. I have always been kind of neurotic about making sure all that I do is proper, but I've lately been questioning if it's even worth it.

Being an adult, all I ever see is evasion of responsibility.

Evasion of taxes Evasion of liability in car accidents Evasion of responsibility for mistakes etc.

For example, if you get into a car-wreck, the first thing anyone does is try to pin responsibility and liability on you for injuries and property even if you were in the right.

If something goes wrong, it's never that person's fault. If something goes right, it wasn't just your work.

Idk, it's a really random thought I had this morning. No one wants to take the blame, I get that, but the idea of evading responsibility is so deeply ingrained in our culture, that insurance companies use AI to auto-reject claims to avoid payouts.

I could go on with this little reflection, but I just find it so hypocritical that I was raised to act responsibly when American society's MO is the exact opposite in the most fundamental ways.

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[–] Perspectivist@feddit.uk 9 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

What’s the alternative? I don’t see one. Becoming cynical because of what others do and then starting to behave that way yourself is just betraying who you are. I can’t make other people act the way I want, but I can keep living the way I wish others did. At the end of the day, at least I can stand behind my own actions and go to bed knowing I didn’t contribute to everything that’s wrong in the world.

[–] SorryImLate@piefed.social 6 points 2 weeks ago

This is the conclusion I reached too in a different context.

I see you're on feddit.uk, so you might appreciate my experience. Probably TMI so feel free to ignore :) I moved to London from South Africa in my early twenties. South Africans are much friendlier and more open than the Brits, and I was raised to be helpful and kind to strangers, except I wasn't used to the impact of public transport exposing me to so many strangers, or the difference in how people (mostly men) would interpret my behaviour. I had a large number of bad experiences, the worst one being a man following me off the bus one night, expecting to be invited into my home.

Anyway, 6 months after moving there I realised I was walking with my head down, unsmiling, avoiding all eye contact, and not allowing any conversation with strangers. I was miserable, so I made a conscious choice to be friendlier again but to learn to set clearer personal boundaries. It is much harder to look someone in the eye, recognise them as a person, and then say no in a kind but clear way. I'm still not perfect at it and have undoubtedly given away more money than I should have but I'm much happier with who I am.