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Stupid question...but what does it mean to "do something nice for yourself"? (lemmy.world)
submitted 3 months ago by dingus@lemmy.world to c/mentalhealth@lemmy.world
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I've always found it odd when I hear people say this. I'm never quite sure how I'm supposed to take it. I live alone. I have like zero responsibilities outside of work. So in that regard, every single day I do "something nice" for myself. I get to eat whatever I want, watch whatever I want on TV, etc.

One "argument" I've heard that this is instead supposed to mean to like exercise or something, but I exercise is very unpleasant to me. I committed to consistent running for over a year and never enjoyed it lol. I feel similarly about all forms of exercise.

I dunno. What am I missing here? Is telling people to do something nice for themselves reserved for people with heavy responsibilities like children and such? Because I don't understand why people would tell me to do that to myself or how I am supposed to apply that. Existing with high freedom and low responsibilities seems pretty nice to myself so I don't get it.

Am I just dumb lol?

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[–] kelpie_returns@lemmy.world 3 points 3 months ago

For me: barrel of red vines, taffy, chocolate cake or ice cream, a good movie or series, some nice fresh juice (preferably any combination of mango/peach/apple/orange), and the will to choose not to think about how bad my tummy will feel later. That's my 'burnt-out and in need of simple comfort' recipe, at least.

My 'fine but wanna treat myself anyway' recipe is basically spending an afternoon (or sometimes a night) cooking up a big complicated meal and then eating it. Preferably with company, but that's not always an option for now. Might get some bubbly or a couple Blue Moons if I'm feeling especially celebratory.

Then there's also the smaller stuff like laying around with my cats awhile, taking a long hot shower, napping, hiking, a slightly pricier than it should purchase, etc.

Whatever makes you feel comfortable or a little more joyful; that is treating yourself. Within reason ofc.