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They're a very old white person, and they will never stop watching race conspiracies in mainstream US news. So there's no use in trying to change things right?

I wish I could sit at the dinner table with the rest of my partner's family without this hyper-racist person sitting with us. I've once cried myself to sleep for three nights straight after a dinner. What this person said was bad enough that I would've preferred they called me a slur instead.

They specifically asked my partner if they were a insert my race-sympathizer. As if to be my race is to be the same as a Nazi, and that its weird to have sympathy for people of my race. No one counts my race as white, btw. My people also have some socialist history so they might automatically suspect communist relation with every insert my race person they meet. They read a Nazi magazine disguised as normal news, so I think they think communists are a threat worse than Nazis.

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[–] purpleworm@hexbear.net 7 points 1 month ago

No one deserves to suffer through that and you should not be expected to tolerate it.

I agree with others here that your partner really should be doing something about this, even if it's just cowing this fucker into silence on the subject. Often it's not really viable to get some old prick who is willingly submerged in anticommunist propaganda to reform, but from my admittedly limited understanding, it's normally possible to get people to shut the fuck up about specific subjects when they're in specific company.

The parent is a racist asshole regardless, I'm just asking for diagnostic understanding: Is the common name for this race also the common name for a nationality? e.g. "Chinese" being used for both the nationality and for Han Chinese people. It's about 50 steps below the far preferential solutions that others have offered and will offer, but I think even for a rancid racist it shouldn't be that hard to get them to say, using my example, "'CCP'-sympathizer" or if it's Venezuelans, like a "Maduro-sympathizer" or just anything to refer to an actual political formation for more of a coherent political statement instead of naming your race as an evil, even if everyone involved understands that this guy is a disgusting racist who functionally does mean that race regardless. Even just saying "communist" seems preferable. Of course, this might be incoherent given further details of what this person is saying that you rightly exclude to avoid doxxing, but I've seen it follow national lines a lot. You should be gunning for much stronger solutions, but I thought it might still be worth mentioning this.