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I think its manipulation, so I agree with you. The initial messaging is actually very important; and in this case its not being done for any other reason than to get more dates.
Its different when its something that has to be carefully disclosed; but just saying things or presenting yourself in a way that is "better" or "more efficient" (when in reality you don't behave that way) in order to get dates is manipulative. Embellishing and lying is a big deal. Some may call it "brutal honesty," however I do expect honesty from a potential partner in sex or dating.
You may be more inclined to say "Yes" to sex if the initial conversation was automated and that fact was never disclosed to you.