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Yeah if we call this SA then you should also call it SA when somebody embellishes part of their life or personality to attract partners. Is it kinda shitty behavior, sure but I think it's a bit far to call it SA, otherwise anything but brutal 100% total honesty since the very first interaction with a potential partner could be construed as SA.
Obviously it's a totally different situation if somebody straight up lies about having an STD or something like that.
removed by deception is a thing but also I feel like there's a line between lying or embellishing details to make yourself look attractive and like, you know those cops who had entire families with the people they were spying on so in the end idk
there's a scale from deceptively flattering pictures to that cop shit and we probably don't gain anything from having that big of an umbrella.
i think this is why we have juries
removed by deception is a very specific thing, not just lying about yourself. It usually refers to cases where Alice consents with Bob, and Carol impersonates Bob, or Carol lying about certain traits that influence consent such as sex or fertility. It doesn't usually refer to Carol impersonating some third party.