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Lawyers and the law aren't the arbiters of consent, you are. If you want justice it's another matter
Like I was tricked into dating a complete shithead once and it didn't feel consensual because he lied about everything including his politics (he was Nazi adjacent and a chaser). In my head this wasn't as bad as violence but being manipulated into having sex feels disgusting and a violation
In a tangential vein, plenty of people argue trans women are SAing men by not disclosing trans status, but this is ultimately born of transphobia. You are ultimately hooking up with a woman who says and believes they're a woman, the men just don't see trans women as women and expect the trans woman to say they're a man. There is no lying here. I always suggest to trans women to disclose via text or call so you don't have to deal with a shithead.