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Was meant to catch up with a friend at 3. Last night she changed it to 3:30 because a new update for a game she's playing is out. Whatever, that's fine. I tell her to text me when she's leaving so I can leave then. She's fine with that.
I decided to leave earlier and get there at 3:30, because I have a jazz playlist I want to listen to. But it hits 3:30, and she still hasn't texted me saying she's left. She sends me a picture of her game asking which option I liked more. I asked her if she's left and she said no. She does live a 5 minute drive away from where we're meeting, so I guess that's not too bad. She is apologising profusely. Now it's been 15 minutes since we were supposed to meet, and she said she has to brush her teeth and wash her face. She is nocturnal because of her (undiagnosed but probable) gaming addiction.
Am I overreacting? I am pissed off even though she's going to be 20 minutes late, but it wasn't because of something like traffic or PTV issues. She could control it. Last week she also pissed me off because she's unemployed and using her dad's money. She said, when buying food,
"It's not my money. I don't care."
I need new friends. I downloaded Bumble for Friends today. Hoping I can get a group of people together and make at least one friend from there. I need friends that don't trauma dump on me or are selfish.
But not actually doing anything about fixing her behaviour? That's crappy, you deserve better than that. Even if you had waited for her to text to, she's still leaving you waiting when agreed on a time and then chose to game. And the rub salt in the wound by sending you a picture of said game.
Sorry, that makes me very angry on your behalf. You are not overreacting, she is not respecting you.
Next time I will wait for that text before leaving, but the fact that she sent a time.