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Does anyone else have or had a problem creating and maintaining a female self image in your mind? I can barely do it if at all, and it can be a little distressing. I can only see myself as the overly masculine body that I currently have.

I'm not on HRT nor presenting as a woman in public. Maybe if I was my self image would change?

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[–] hildegarde@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 6 days ago (2 children)

I'm presenting as fem as I can and I've been on HRT 7 months, and my own thoughts still misgender me. Not always, but sometimes.

It doesn't actually feel different being a woman, or being on estrogen. I find most people mistake the feeling of being alive with being a specific type of person. I've heard retired family members say they still feel like they're in their 20s, and I feel similarly from transitioning. Being alive feels the same regardless, you will still be yourself no matter what happens.

Even now I still get a bit startled when I see myself in a mirror and instead of saying, "that's me," my brain thinks, "that's a woman."

Your self image may change, but it takes more time than I've spent trying.

[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 5 days ago

the comparison to age is perfect, actually - in your head you can feel like a different age than you actually are; this can be a bit like the disconnect between how your internal sense of gender is and how you are perceived in your gender, etc.

[–] edg@lemmy.world 3 points 6 days ago

My older relatives say the same thing, about how old they feel. That's a powerful insight about feeling alive. Thank you so much.