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I hate kissing and sex?? (lemmings.world)
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The only thing I want to do with my girlfriend id hold hands or hug. For some reason, sex and even kissing feels weird to me. I love my girlfriend, but I don’t wanna kiss her and it makes me wonder if she’s just a best friend/platonic partner. Is it possible I’m aroace? I need advice.

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[–] FoxyFerengi@startrek.website 5 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

There's quite a few different forms of aromantic and asexual identities. All of them have a lack of sexual or romantic desire on some level. Cupioromantic is someone who desires a romantic relationship but doesn't experience romantic feelings. A demiromantic only experiences romantic attraction after forming an emotional bond.

Trying to define "romantic feelings" is kind of difficult, because it differs for everyone. I would probably say you have an aversion to sexual intimacy, and that can include deep kissing.

Here's list I stole off the internet of types of love. It might help you narrow down your feelings

7 Types of Love

  • Friendship: Intimacy without passion or commitment

  • Infatuation: Passion without intimacy or commitment

  • Empty love: Commitment without passion or intimacy

  • Romantic love: Passion and intimacy without commitment

  • Companionate love: Intimacy and commitment without passion/sexual desire; this could also be called "platonic" love

  • Fatuous love: Commitment and passion without intimacy

  • Consummate love: Commitment, passion, and intimacy