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[–] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 9 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago) (4 children)

Labels exist to describe what is. You don't need to fit neatly into a category. You like who you like, and you shouldn't apologize for it.

Like for me, I'm attracted to the late Andre Braugher portraying the gay man Captain Holt on Brooklyn 99 when he's pretending to be straight and describing his fictitious partner's heavy breasts. Nothing sexier than that, but the brain trust at Oxford hasn't come up with a word for that one yet.

[–] 11111one11111@lemmy.world 6 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

Oh fuck you! I was not prepared to learn one of my favorite sitcom characters is dead. Fuck me, now I gotta Google how he passed.

[–] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 3 points 9 hours ago

My condolences. He died too soon.

[–] tacosanonymous@lemm.ee 5 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

Holt talking about thigh gap is hilarious.

[–] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 5 points 9 hours ago

"There's nothing more intoxicating than the clear absence of a penis."

[–] angrystego@lemmy.world 4 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

Of course you don't have to fit a box. But it's easier to communicate your preferences if there is a lable you can use for yourself. OP is trying to find out if there is such a shortcut they could use. Explaining that they don't necessarily need to do that is not helpful.

[–] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 1 points 9 hours ago

Sure, but it's also helpful to know that there aren't labels for everything, nor do we need labels for everything. Really, the only person you need to communicate your preferences to is the person you prefer. In my (admittedly limited) experience, romantic partners don't want to be reduced to a subset of their attractive physical features. "I like you" is generally sufficient, and it's not really anybody else's business what you like or don't like. We're conditioned to try to label ourselves, and I would argue that it is unhealthy reinforcing that conditioning by inventing new labels.

OP could describe themselves as bi or pan or omni, but none of those are the sum total of OP's lived experience. We should describe ourselves, not define ourselves.

[–] 11111one11111@lemmy.world 1 points 12 hours ago

Oh fuck you! I was not prepared to learn one of my favorite sitcom characters is dead. Fuck me, now I gotta Google how he passed.I'm