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I need to write applications because my contract is going to end in July. The job market here is shit, everybody is only looking for senior staff and I only have 3 years experience in my field. It's also heavily male dominated and I absolutely hate the working culture. My boss basically told me they won't keep me even though I did a good job with my project because I "don't fit in with the company culture". As examples he mentioned several instances of me suggesting to use other methods or tools that I had successfully used at other companies. We had so much trouble with the project mostly because communication was shit, but whenever I proposed better communication tools/methods (other than: get all 15 project members into a three hour long meeting twice a week), I was told that "we don't do that here", "this is just how it works at this company".
I am so annoyed, exhausted, pissed and so done with working with fragile people who'll blow up an entire project because their ego is bruised. They get to sulk and not do their job because they don't like that I communicate the customers schedule to them. They get to say they'll do it "in their own time". And I first get in trouble with the higher-ups for upsetting the customer because the project is late and THEN get in trouble with my team lead for being mean to the developers who want to work in their own time and would rather not be bothered by questions or requirement changes until the deadline. But hey, I'm the one who doesn't fit in and gets booted.
I just wish I could find a job that doesn't suck.
Hey, it sounds like you were trying to improve things at work and you were punished for it - as hard as it is to lose your job, it's probably good that you won't stick around there in the long term.
I hope you're able to find a good job, too - maybe moving to a different region where the culture is better could help, or changing careers, etc. I know not everyone has the same options and opportunities, but I just hope you don't get too discouraged - life is really strange, sometimes it just takes persistence to eventually find the right place for you.
Meanwhile, take comfort that you were doing all the right things and keep up the good work 💕
Thank you so much. Yes, like 70% of my department will retire within the next 8 years. Most studied together and have formed a group that won't let new people in. New hires usually don't stay. So it's not a good company either way. Still sucks. My husband and I are also looking into moving to a smaller city, so this is at least a good chance to look for jobs somewhere else.
God that's a lot to deal with. You're up against the clock in a shit job market where they're looking for seniors not your level. The working culture is horrible and it's heavily male which puts you at disadvantage. If women do t fit the working culture then the working culture needs to change.
Working with narcissists who can't cope with ego bruising is exhausting. You end up having to clean up the shit they cause and get it in the neck from other people. It's a nightmare culture and no wonder you're feeling exhausted and pissed off.
How's the job hunting going?
So far job hunting isn't going well. Mostly because everybody is looking for seniors. I was in contact with a couple of recruiters, but most told me they only have jobs for more experienced people or tell me they'll see what they can do and then never contact me again... I have a call with a recruiter on Thursday so we'll see.
On the plus side, my husband and I just booked our vacation and a spa hotel in June, so there's something to look forward to.
I remember my mate had a fucking nightmare with recruiters they just ignore you. I feel for you mate it's rough. It's good that you've got something to look forward to you deserve that