I learned a lot about transgender stuff by reading online. The Null HypotheCis, and the make me a woman button page, and other blog posts. I spent a lot of time reading r/nonbinary, r/agender, r/adrogynous etc. And eventually realized I'd be okay with, nay, want to be female.

Egg_irl, Unix_socks and reading r/femboys and seeing their profiles often said they are transfems rather than feminine males were also very helpful! I relate to almost ALL egg memes. Ive been repping so long that I've just tried everything. Folk pop, 100 gecs, MMOs, Arch Linux, the list goes on and on.

On autism, I found a channel called No Boilerplate who talks about Rust programming but also talks about how he copes with autism and even just regular adult issues. I watched videos about masking vs. Not masking...

And HealthyGamer.gg has many videos that can be helpful to the neurodivergent and trans reppers without ever breaking the prime directive. "Burnt out gifted kids", "wasting life on video games", and other stuff.

My therapist did unofficially diagnose me autistic and then trans, but I did the work of self-acceptance alone. The key takeaway from therapy was learning which mindfulness techniques actually worked for me. And most of my therapy was over the phone wearing headphones, with only two of our sessions being in person.

Thanks for asking!