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Why do folks who drink alcohol feel the need to harass others who choose not to? (hexbear.net)
submitted 5 days ago by Feinsteins_Ghost@hexbear.net to c/askchapo@hexbear.net
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Out on the beach for a while today, i ran across two people waving for attention; turns out they were stuck right past the '4wd only past this point' sign. I got them unstuck, made sure they didnt need anything else and was about to head on my way. One of the women offered me a couple road sodas, and i declined- i havent drank alcohol in about 13 years and have no inclination to start again. The other woman actually scoffed, and said 'what man isnt going to accept a beer from a couple women on the beach, are you a f-slur?'

So i left.

Why the fuck do people who drink alcohol act this way around people who dont drink?

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[–] Cruxifux@feddit.nl 43 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Ok that person is just an asshole.

[–] Feinsteins_Ghost@hexbear.net 25 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Hard agree.

What sort of person are you if you must resort to crude remarks about someones percieved sexuality because they dont want a fucking lone star lite

[–] InappropriateEmote@hexbear.net 30 points 5 days ago (1 children)

resort to crude remarks about someones percieved sexuality

It's worse than that. A slur doesn't just denigrate you as the immediate target, it is a word used as a tool of oppression against an entire marginalized group. If she had just said "are you a loser?" or something like that, she'd be an asshole sure, but whatever. "Are you a [f-slur]?" makes her not just an asshole but far worse, a bigot.

[–] woodenghost@hexbear.net 13 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I agree and saying "loser" often sound classist to me, so bigoted too. Like homeless people for example certainly don't seem to "win" at life (as if it were a competition), but that's no reason to look down on them or call them slurs.

[–] InappropriateEmote@hexbear.net 17 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I can see where there may be some classist connotations with the insult "loser" but it is categorically not the same as a slur like the one OP was called. "Loser" just doesn't have the sort of splash damage (or history) that an actual slur does. There's a reason why this site will ban a user on the spot for calling someone else, even the most vile chud, the f-slur, but "loser" can be tossed around without much issue. But I do agree, it's always good to examine these things and even an insult that seems innocuous can have some baggage that might make it worth reconsidering its use.

[–] woodenghost@hexbear.net 3 points 4 days ago

Yes, definitely. It depends on the context when this one.