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This was me 25 years ago, and it took a good long while after I was in the black before I could get to a point where I could stop thinking about work when I wasn’t working. I think this is the key: you MUST make time to not think about work (and from the sound of it, to think about your wife). I found it easiest to literally put it in my calendar. I set aside time for when I wanted to work out, play with the baby, hang out with the wife, etc. It was very granular in the beginning because otherwise I’d just blow it off, but when I penciled in 45 min for lunch with wife or 15 minutes to read a book, I’d actually do it. Eventually being able to unplug became easier and I could stop, but scheduling was a crutch I leaned on for years. It’s fantastic that you can see a path to success already, but remember that work and the grind aren’t the only important things.
That’s the thing, at my stage it’s very easy for this to be a path to failure still. But it is going well and the way I want it too. But yes, these things will take time to be able to manage time wise and mentally and I was prepared for that sacrifice when I started this shit. THANKS DAD!