Highly political topics and such are the worst, probably. But others where people come because of a shared interest, like a sport or food or animal or something, a hobby, I think tend to be more chill and mellow.

[–] Krauerking@lemy.lol 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

You would think. I still won't go back to the gardening community. And will probably just stop participating in anything around here.

The problem is that there is still to few others than those types. The topic seems secondary. The mellow places are where it's empty.

[–] victorz@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Maybe it also depends on the topic. But there are always gonna be annoying people everywhere you go in life. 🥲

[–] Krauerking@lemy.lol 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

The topic was how much they hoped my garden withered because I couldn't afford to fully mulch all of it and was saying I was having to constantly weed the edge of my garden.
They proceeded to gleefully wish harm upon me and hardship for not doing or being exactly like them and as I begged for help from others to not feel alone was told I likely deserved it.

Yeah people are truly awful everywhere and not working on getting better.

[–] Shyfer@ttrpg.network 2 points 1 hour ago* (last edited 1 hour ago) (1 children)

That sucks. I'm sorry that happened =(

It was like that for me on the Marvel Rivals subreddit on Reddit. I didn't like all the smurfs (new accounts made by higher ranked players in lower ranked lobbies) but when I complained about it and said lower ranked or more casual players deserve to have fun, too, a bunch of people diminished my experiences, gleefully said they smurf, it's a skill issue, it's not a real problem (despite me checking enemy user profiles and sure enough, they're all experts at this game with barely any time played and all wins in their competitive matches), just to not play, etc. It's like pro basketball players dunking on little kid community games. They deserve to have fun, too!

Don't have any advice or anything, and what I said may not have made any sense to people who don't play the game, just empathizing on how much the internet sucks sometimes and your comment reminded me of that. Now I'm angry just remembering it lol.

[–] Krauerking@lemy.lol 2 points 1 hour ago

Sorry. But yeah. Don't have an answer but it's a mess for being a new memeber when it feels communities don't care to remember that people have to start somewhere.

Sorry that it happened to you too.