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my gf is hardly ever online and prefers games (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
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she’s just not a very active person online. when she is, shes only active in group chats with her friends.

usually, she talks about video games, and is actually offline because she plays video games almost all the time.

is there any way to salvage the relationship? she’s too focused on her interests to be interested in mine, and like I said, is almost always playing games so we barely talk aside from: “hi ❤️” “Hi sweetie ❤️” “hru??” “Good, just playing games, you?” “good :)) im listening to music” and then the conversation ends because she doesn’t message first and is busy with the other stuff.

(i have tried talking to her and she says she’s usually busy. shes either genuinely busy, busy with games, or in a bad mood and doesn’t feel like talking [sad/tired])

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[–] Sas@beehaw.org 10 points 3 days ago (5 children)

If she's playing games you could voice chat in parallel. I do that a bunch with my friends. Or you could even play something together, like "we were here" or "it takes two" (or "bread and Fred" if you want to break up). Like in general maybe take more interest in each others hobbies. Talk about which games she's playing and what games she's excited about from future releases, tell her what kind of music you're listening to. If the conversation just ends because she doesn't message anymore after "I'm listening to music" it's because neither of you picked up the topic the other presented.

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