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Oh, I remember you, I've seen a couple threads from you over the past couple days. So, let's recap a few of the things I've seen you say.
That last one really cracks me up. You only feel remorse when someone else does something that doesn't benefit you. That's not how remorse works. Remorse is felt when you yourself have done something wrong and are ashamed of it. But based on the things you've said, you don't ever really feel bad about your own actions, maybe at the most giving it a "yeah, I know people say this is wrong", but it doesn't look like you ever actually feel it. A lot of what you say reads as the most narcissistic shit I've ever seen in my life.
So to answer your question for this thread. Yes. You are a bad friend. Get therapy. Seriously.
Or don't, and I'm sure you'll have no friends at all soon enough. But I'm sure you'll be able to rationalize that as being their fault anyway, so don't worry, you won't even have to feel any sort of remorse!
Wow. This reads like the ramblings of a narcissist, a sociopath, or someone incredibly neurodivergent (I am neurodiverse myself).
I agree that they should seek therapy to understand themself.
It could also be that they’re very poor at wording their feelings as I can be like that sometimes and it makes me seem like a nutter, when in fact I just articulated it incorrectly.
Also sounds like a sociopath
I don’t think I have narcissism, just ADHD and depression. Is there a way i can have friends without socializing all the time? I’m quite burnt out because I don’t like most people
Maybe you are a narcissist and maybe you aren't, neither of us are actually qualified to make that call. A therapist that you see regularly would be, however. Now, while I say I'm not qualified to make that call, I will say that the shit you say is 100% the same shit a narcissist would.
Signs of narcissistic personality disorder include exaggerated sense of self-importance ("I will always be better than my friends"), lack of empathy ("I feel like I can treat them however I want without much remorse. In fact, I feel like most of the time, I’m right to treat people this way."), and a tendency to exploit others ("I view people as more tools than anything").
Everything you said that I quoted in my post above is a red flag for narcissism. I could've quoted a lot more than I did even, but I figured those would be enough to get the point across.
Now, as for your question about "can I have friends without socializing all the time," maybe first you should ask yourself, "Do I actually want friends? Or do I just want more tools I can use?" Cuz I don't believe that you actually want friends.
But regardless, whether it's ADHD and depression, or narcissism, or some combination of all three, the answer remains the same. You need to find a therapist, and you need to do the work. Work on becoming a decent human who actually cares about other people, aside from how they can benefit you, and having friends will liekly follow.
What don’t you like about most people?
I have ADHD too and exhibit some narcissistic tendencies and I find that I don’t like socialising when I’m tired, struggling to not obsess over a new hobby (like playing a new game, I need to make a conscious effort to see friends and stuff), or just burnt out.
I like to think that I have a social battery and if I don’t charge that up then I’ll be like this.
You should pay particular attention to how I said make a conscious effort to see friends. As friendship is a two way relationship and you have to put effort into them.
It could also be that you have the wrong friend group, unlikely, but possible. I’ve come to realise ghat all my friends of decades, are selfish and don’t make the same considerations as I do when thinking about them. Time keeping for instance. If I was going to pick up a friend I would be on time and I would message them to come out once I’m 1 min away. Whereas my friends will be late, not update me on time scales and tell me to come out when they’re still 10 minutes away. Meaning that they’re not really thinking about my needs and weighing them against their own, and rather are just thinking of themselves.