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Is it maybe because you consider your friends to be weird, so nobody wants that level of judgement when they join your friendship circle?
To hamfistedly adapt an oft-quoted phrase: "if all the people that want to be your friend are weirdos, then maybe you're the weirdo".
That said, I'm taking the view that you're here for a constructive opinion and not just for a kicking, and I'm aware of the sensitivities around the nature of this community - so have you considered being more of what you want to see in others? Positivity and personality focus are super attractive qualities (in a platonic way) and by bigging up your friends positive traits rather than ragging on their own little annoyances makes you more of an attractive person to befriend.
I don’t like that they’re bad at sports. I’m better than them, and I don’t even play sports. My friends always pass the ball to the next person open, which happens to be their friend, so I think they’re targeting me.
They hardly ever pass the ball to me when I can shoot some awesome hoops!
As someone who loved basketball, I get how this can be frustrating.
All I can offer is that they might find different aspects of the sport fun than you do: for them it might be more about feeding the ball to their friend to reinforce trust and solidarity with them.