Fedibridge

Seriously, how the hell is anyone supposed to keep up with this stuff? Or moderate it? I've once been on a relatively small server where I could keep up with everything interesting and chat with people I knew. Then it grew, moderation became bad, chats were moving too quickly to even keep up in real time, let alone catch up to what I missed when away. A lot of new people and too many of them to actually build bonds and remember who is who. Countless different discussions happening in the same place at once between different people making things a mess. Topics shifting constantly in real time so if you go do something it already shifted a few times by the time you're back. Also due to activity you need to actively engage a lot if you want to know what's even going on in there because things aren't organised to neatly revisit conversations. Quitting this server was such a relief because I didn't need to keep up with anything anymore. I still keep in touch with 2 people from there months later though.

E: Plenty dramas too between users I don't really know and the whole server's mood shifting and talking about it while I just want to hang out. Big discord servers suck.