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I still can get over the logic behind choosing "Elliot" over "Allen" as a male name after transitioning. "Allen" is a perfectly masculine name and phonetically much closer to "Ellen". People basically wouldn't even have to rejust talking to you.
"It's his choice what he wants to be called, so why do you care?" Because you yourself are probably the person who who says your own name the least. It's something everybody else has to deal with.
When you get the chance to choose your name, you choose the one that makes you happy. It's for you, not others. Your existence shouldn't have to be convenient. Seek your joy, as long as it isn't harming others.
What do you mean "when"? Everybody can choose their name at any time, it cost like 300 bucks plus the fees for new passports and the drivers license. Then it's just a matter of calling all the official faculties to inform them of the change.
Its not some gracefully spiritual thing.
Plus actors and actresses can choose an additional stage name when registering with the SAG.
None of that invalidates anything I said. I don't give a fuck what a state thinks you're called.
Your name is far more important than that. It's personal. It shapes how you think of yourself, and how others see you. It could be free, or it could be illegal. It would be exactly as important.
Not everyone has 300 dollars or the confidence to make any gender affirming documents right now that would alert the state to their presence.
https://news.yahoo.com/news/state-department-blocking-passports-trans-085646164.html.
Also they're probably feeling unsafe interacting with the government where there are police present depending on what state they're in, or which country they were born in.
https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/are-cities-ice-raids-are-taking-place-rcna189390
Or in the case of a few Navaho people anywhere off the res. (However first nations people are 100% capable to have any fucking name they want on the res. So to them name changes might not be a problem.)
https://www.azcentral.com/story/news/local/arizona/2025/01/24/navajo-nation-leaders-address-reports-of-ice-detaining-tribal-citizens/77911978007/
So no, right now at this minute not everyone can change their name in the US to whatever they want.
Who said anything about the US? Elliot Page is Canadian and I'm talking about a European perspective. Europe even gives you a free offical name change if you receive your citizenship.
Then you might want to state that in an international forum, especially when you reference SAG a US Union. Or might be talking about a trans person who works and lives in that country.
Also the use of dollars might have alluded to it as well. Regardless of the denomination that is a good chunk of change for any person in the world. What an international comment you made.
Maybe just maybe Allen is far too close to Ellen that it would cause dysphoria? Or maybe the ell part of the name has some significance to him and his family. It's not rocket science it's just someones name.
You have to "deal" with referring to a celebrity by a name you don't prefer? Somehow this is an inconvenience for you?
Its just a unique circumstance where a male and female name are almost phoneticaly almost identical and not taking advantage of that is kind if an oversight to your own fortune.
It's like missing a curb by an inch and then getting out if the car to scratch your rims by hand anyway.
Maybe he wanted to distance himself a bit from his dead name? Maybe he liked his new name more? Maybe why tf you care so much?
I'm wondering if you talk to people face to face about these things. Do their eyes tend to glass over? Do they say uh huh alot?
These statements have the energy of a guy in a coffee shop asking a women to take one of her airpods out just to tell her that Elliot Page picked the wrong name.
Keep wondering.
Some people hate the name they were given at birth and don't want one that's similar.
Have you considered that he might like having his name start with E so his initials didn't change for his signature?
Maybe the idea was to avoid similar-sounding names. It’s easier to make mistakes when a vowel sound is the only difference.