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Honestly this is really hard to pity all. This reads like white woman goes to new country with new culture and new language and hates everything she doesn’t understand. Such a ridiculous warrants a response otherwise others may take you seriously.
Half of your wife’s “horror” story is her not being used to Chinese culture or speaking any Chinese. People staring and taking photos? This happens in any country where white people aren’t typically present. They’re curious not rude.
Since she can’t speak Chinese it’s a huge assumption for you two to assume they were calling her a fat tan farmer? How would you even come up with that if you can’t understand it. Chinese people do comment on tall or big westerns but not in a rude manner. Again, because they may not have seen someone like your wife before and are curious.
She’s upset about a city having nice and bad parts? Walk down any big city in America. China modernized very recently. She’s upset about people taking photos of the pretty sky? She’s upset about a culture that doesn’t wait in lines?
Idk if it’s worth commenting on learning how other Americans run gyms as “spying.” What an overreaction.
And now your wife is walking around spreading how bad China is along with you. This is just sad.
Wait until you get to Japan and find many places won’t welcome white people, people will move away from you on the subway, most don’t speak English, there are also bad parts.
I am not saying a lot of these things are unique. Someone asked more information on why she was traumatized so I gave the information. I highly doubt I alone will really change anyone’s perception of anything.
As someone whose family is from south america, this is not a typical thing to do to foreign tourists. People don’t point and ridicule. If anything they engage with them more, because they want money. I am sure this happens in other countries as well, but right now we’re talking about China.
Her friend has been living there for years and speaks the language. Some of this happened while they were both together and she relayed what was said (which were also things said to her friend for the time she lived in China). If I wanted to make far fetched stories I could have actually spent time coming up with something creative.
She’s not upset about these things. This is mostly commenting on the overall thought that China is great everywhere. It has homeless people and poverty just like the rest of the world. Hell I even originally left out the fact that she saw people eating food off the ground and some sleeping in trash.
If you know another phrase for going to other gyms, recording classes, in secret, trying to not getting caught and emailing this information to another country to steal their information, by all means tell me and I will use it.
There are bad parts everywhere in the world. I also have friends in Japan, and it wouldn’t be work related.