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Cishet dudes of Hexbear: Do feel that certain gender or sexuality norms are harmful to you personally? If so, what are they and how would you say they affect you? (hexbear.net)
submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by Carcharodonna@hexbear.net to c/askchapo@hexbear.net
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So, back when I was "still cis tho", there were a lot of aspects of male gender norms that bothered me deeply and of course I totally understand why now. Even though these days I obviously have a clear reason for feeling that way, I'm still curious if cishet men also have issues with how norms or expectations around gender and sexuality impact them in a negative way.

I'd love to hear your thoughts on how those norms impact you, whether good or bad.

Also, I should mention that since this is a bit of a sensitive subject we're talking about here, please be thoughtful and sensitive when discussing with others in this thread. Thanks! <3

EDIT: Much thanks for all the great responses here! I know it's a difficult topic of course, so I appreciate you sharing your thoughts/feelings like this.

Speaking of which... I just looked at /c/menby and some of the posts on the front page there are over 2 years old. I see a lot of the discussion here centered around not being able to share feelings and/or not having the spaces or support to do that in. /c/menby seems like the perfect place for that, just sayin'.

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[–] DickFuckarelli@hexbear.net 37 points 10 months ago (3 children)

I'll keep it light. I'm for all intents and purposes, a dude's dude. I work out, BBQ, drink beer, and in general, am loud and obnoxious. But...

I hate sports and in particular American Football. And to a plurality if not majority of supposed free society I might as well turn in my bro card.

[–] Carcharodonna@hexbear.net 24 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I hate sports and in particular American Football.

Same! And good for you for hating American football in particular. It's a terrible sport run mostly by racist chuds that causes long term injuries (including brain damage) for the people who play it, which also includes kids in many cases. I do admit that I like watching Kaiju Big Battel sometimes (which is really more entertainment than actual wrestling) and robot wars type stuff, but that's mostly it these days for watching sports.

[–] krolden@lemmy.ml 17 points 10 months ago (1 children)

When youre in a public place and people come up to you and just start talking about some football game that happened because you're a male and they have no other idea how make small talk that doesn't involve sports.

[–] ProfessorOwl_PhD@hexbear.net 11 points 10 months ago

they have no other idea how make small talk that doesn't involve sports.

Hey, they might know how to make small talk about cars, which I also don't give a fuck about.

[–] grandepequeno@hexbear.net 5 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

Same but in Portugal and with football, here everyone is from one of the 3 big teams (green, blue red) and you're expected to pick 1 of them and tease/get teased the day after 2 teams play each other. And you ought to have at least 1 item branded with your team