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[–] LowExperience2368@aussie.zone 5 points 8 months ago (5 children)

Friend said let's meet at 1. I ask her if she's sure. She says yes. It's 1:46 and I'm still waiting for her. I knew I should've arrived at 2. She waited a million years for a bus so she didn't have to walk, when she could've walked. Grr.

[–] Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone 8 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

I had to step away from a friendship yesterday for a similar reason.

It feels bad today, but I'm glad I did it because I don't want to be the kind of person who is OK with that behaviour.

This person doesn't value your time and that's a pretty big red flag.

[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 6 points 8 months ago (1 children)

late 🀨

i detest lateness when it is a choice that person makes

[–] LowExperience2368@aussie.zone 2 points 8 months ago

She goes to sleep anywhere between 1 and 6am and wakes up maybe 12pm. I asked her if 1 was okay and she said yes. Clearly it wasn't!

[–] tone212_@aussie.zone 5 points 8 months ago

I am a sometimes late person (a trait I don't really like but actively trying to improve) but being THAT late is insulting. You have to value other people's time.

[–] Thornburywitch@aussie.zone 4 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Does she wear tight/fashionable/high heeled shoes? Was I wearing such, I'd wait a million years for a bus rather than walk and cripple myself. If, on the other hand, she wears comfy shoes - that's a different dynamic.

[–] Duenan@aussie.zone 2 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Did she have the courtesy to say that she'll be late?

Think it's a bit rude as well making you wait due to walking/bus thing.

[–] LowExperience2368@aussie.zone 2 points 8 months ago (4 children)

Yep she said she was still in bed when I arrived.

[–] Nath@aussie.zone 13 points 8 months ago (1 children)

"Another time, then"

Meeting her anyway sends the signal that you're fine with being such a low priority in her world. And she'll have no incentive to alter her behaviour next time.

[–] TinyBreak@aussie.zone 5 points 8 months ago

100% agree with this.

[–] bacon@aussie.zone 5 points 8 months ago

That would be a won’t meet ever again for me

[–] Duenan@aussie.zone 3 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Hm still not great.

Hopefully it's not a consistent thing that happens all the time.

[–] LowExperience2368@aussie.zone 4 points 8 months ago (1 children)

It is but this is the worst it has been. I'm not waiting anymore

[–] Duenan@aussie.zone 2 points 8 months ago

Since you're out already treat yourself out to something?