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Can I ask this girl out?
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this post was submitted on 16 Aug 2023
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I’m going to go along with most of the other replies. If she’s at work, she’s being nice because that’s her job. I’ve had many men take that the wrong way, and it’s uncomfortable. Like dude, I HAVE to be nice to you. I don’t necessarily WANT to.
If you run into her in the wild, or she comes into your work, I think that’s ok, BUT be prepared to never go back to her work again. Especially if she says no.
If she’s with a bunch of her friends, I’d say to not ask them either, unless you can do it very quietly. Someone else mentioned slipping her your number, and letting it be from there. I’d say that’s probably a good plan of attack. Definitely don’t just walk up to a table with her and her friends and ask her out in front of everyone though.
Normally asking her out probably wouldn't even have occurred to me. She said that when she's coming over for lunch, she'd come to the kitchen to say hi. That's kinda what gives me the vibes she's not just being nice to me for her job. If I'm gonna make a move, it's probably then.
I said this in another comment, but I think the best plan if you can would be bring out her order yourself. Then have waiter/waitress leave your name and number on the check. Real sly, you get personal interaction and don't put her on the spot.
But it sounds like things are looking up for you buddy. Hope we get a follow up!
The comment about coming to the kitchen to say hi is important context. I'm inclined to agree with you, that she isn't just being nice, with that info.
I definitely say go for it, but do it in a way that doesn't put her on the spot, in front of other people. Good luck! Hopefully there will be an exciting update.
This is kinda cheesy but I’d have said something like “That’s so sweet, but wouldn’t it be easier to just text me?” and then offer her my number when/if she says she doesn’t have it.
I don't think that's necessary. Unless the OP is pushy and a creep just asking, accepting a no, and moving on shouldn't bar them from the dispensary forever.