I have a philosophy of sticking close to reference implementations and upstream in the homelab because it forces me to learn principles rather than implementations. I use bind9, but that upstreams to pihole on a different port. It is hard to configure for sure, editing zone files in vi, but I learn a lot analyzing the reference syntax to understand features. I also use isc-dhcp-server for DHCP, again manually populating dhcpd.conf.

Bind can peer with other instances; right now it is it's own ipam vm on my proxmox with bind/isc-dhcp/pihole docker, but I'm looking at dropping some hardware at a family member's for a site 2.