170

Off My Chest: I just had a very long talk with my father (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 2 months ago by Reverendender@sh.itjust.works to c/adhd@lemmy.world

49 comments fedilink hide all child comments

That ended with me finally explaining to him how the way he and my mother treated me as a child, with undiagnosed (and really not even conceptually understood at the time) ADHD caused me lasting trauma that persists to this day. I’m a 45 year old man, and I cried.

you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments

[-] Gradually_Adjusting@lemmy.world 17 points 2 months ago

Meanwhile I have done my best with my kid. My best obviously wasn't good enough. Even a psych degree did not prepare me, and I still feel like that talk is headed my way in a decade or two. ADHD is a fucking nightmare.

[-] grrgyle@slrpnk.net 17 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

I saw my own parents trying so hard with me and my siblings: to be better than their parents, and more sensitive than the society around us. They succeeded in being better than their origins, but still fucked us up in their own unique way.

I think we can only expect our parents to love us and to try their best, given the cards they were dealt.

It can take some processing to get to that realisation though. I hope your kid sees that you love them and were trying your best.

this post was submitted on 21 Sep 2024

170 points (97.2% liked)

ADHD

9742 readers

52 users here now

A casual community for people with ADHD

Values:

Acceptance, Openness, Understanding, Equality, Reciprocity.

Rules:

No abusive, derogatory, or offensive post/comments.
No porn, gore, spam, or advertisements allowed.
Do not request for donations.
Do not link to other social media or paywalled content.
Do not gatekeep or diagnose.
Mark NSFW content accordingly.
No racism, homophobia, sexism, ableism, or ageism.
Respectful venting, including dealing with oppressive neurotypical culture, is okay.
Discussing other neurological problems like autism, anxiety, ptsd, and brain injury are allowed.
Discussions regarding medication are allowed as long as you are describing your own situation and not telling others what to do (only qualified medical practitioners can prescribe medication).

Encouraged:

Funny memes.
Welcoming and accepting attitudes.
Questions on confusing situations.
Seeking and sharing support.
Engagement in our values.

Relevant Lemmy communities:

Neurodivergent Life Hacks

lemmy.world/c/adhd will happily promote other ND communities as long as said communities demonstrate that they share our values.

founded 2 years ago

MODERATORS

MrPoopyButthole@lemmy.world

MrPoopyButthole@lemmy.dbzer0.com