Throw her on a hill and she'll see that it's way easier than she expects to find the catch. I'm also pretty high strung, generally speaking, and when I couldn't get a hang of changing gears, the moment would devolve into sheer panic and make everything worse as I snubbed the engine with each attempt. And this was during parking lot practice with someone's old car that they were planning on junking anyways, so no need for that level of stress whatsoever.

But then I was taken to a little incline where I could clearly /feel it/ for the first time and after that, I just "got it".