Never finished degree and I feel stuck/suicidal over it (lemmy.world)

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I started uni 2014 and I've still yet to finish it because of life BS. Dealing with depression / ADHD has made finishing my degree seem impossible for me to do and I feel like an absolute failure everyday because of it. I wasted many semesters attempting clases and then dropping out when my grades weren't good.

My parents both graduated by their early 20s and had me at 23; I'll be 29 soon and I still live with them working at a Walmart to make ends meet and even with that I'm about to be fired for poor performance. I feel depressed being there because I was given everything in life to be successful and yet I wasted my 20s away being depressed / suicidal. All of my friends all have graduated long ago and have better jobs and I get envious seeing them being successful. All I think about is splattering my brains all over the wall.

I don't have a plan to follow, every day I'm just hating myself for wasting my best years over stupid shit instead of focusing.

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[-] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 2 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

I ran out of money during college. No matter the problem, you can overcome any college mishap except a lack of money. So off I went.

There's a 6-month stretch after getting laid-off in 2006 where I only worked one job. I was sick a lot and didn't feel like ratcheting the grind back up.

Every other day since leaving college almost 30 years ago I've been working in IT with no degree. For the last 20 it's been some changing day-job and the same side-hustle for vacation money.

I will allow that the challenge to find a new primary job is sometimes hampered by my lack of a degree, but I've realized I do much better at the shops who just want to see you work.

NOT getting the degree gives you an extra challenge. I don't know that it's significant, though.

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