I wish I could say I "got it" immediately and never got grumpy with people, but I'd be lying.

But I've noticed that what you said about trusting your goodness and letting it flow is fairly common. It's pretty rare to run into someone that's divergent that's being mean or has ill intent by default. The more open folks are, the more direct, I find that they're also more likely to be good as their intent. Which I think is pretty damn cool