So we’re trapped in a world where a good bunch of the allistics don’t care enough about us to learn how to communicate properly with us or to, at least, find a middle ground.

I don't claim or even think I am autistic, but the inability for people recognize that just speaking clearly and directly would be better all around is infuriating. They seem to have some kind of reverence for people knowing all the 'subtle clues' that are based on what cultures someone is familiar with and based entirely on excluding others. Understanding the reasons why doesn't make it less annoying when the same action could mean different things in the same culture in the same context depending on what is in somebody's head.

Social cues are annoying and inconsistent even when they are understood. Most people just don't think about it actively and just change their behavior based on anyone correcting them without thinking about why something is 'the norm'.