If you've reached your 50s and still care that much about the opinion of "Society" you have worse problems than sexiness or lack thereof.

Opinions are like assholes: everybody has one and they often stink.

The one of "Society" is even worse: it's generally a cross between the lowest common denominator and the opinion forming efforts of people who have that power, done for personal gain, power or even for petty psychological self satisfaction (*cough* Trump, Elon Musk *cough*)

For example, the whole "need for sexiness" is often about selling to women the products they need to "make them sexy" (which, IMHO, often does the very opposite), the "expectation" that people have cars is about selling cars and the fuel for them, and opinions like being anti-mask are about tribalism and power through leading a crowd.

No point in worrying about the opinion of most people out there even as individuals, much less the highly manipulated bullshit which is the "opinion" of "Society".