NVE_Girl

I used to be all over social media since the Myspace days but it's been exhausting over the last handful of years. I know I don't use it as much anymore and neither do any of my friends. But like the article said a lot of us still watch video content.

Hello I'm new here! I'm an autistic trans woman, excited to be part of a kind community.

It's been a tough week, news about trans people has been awful and my job wont let me update my ID photo on my badge. I started my transition 1.5 years ago and present femme now. They refuse because they say I look too different, and can't wear any makeup or have long hair for the ID photo.

I'm escalating with HR but it was really demoralizing. Otherwise things have been okay! I get to visit the city and see some close friends this month so that will help recharge my batteries :)

"I’m trying to help."

Cool, well after one of the hardest weeks of my life because of my identity, I really feel helped coming into a thread about TDoV and seeing 50% of the comments being dominated by a cis man talking down to trans people.

And I was even polite, offered a neutral explanation, and you still attacked me.

Seems like you have a real big chip on your shoulder about the trans community.

First day on beehaw as a trans woman. Sure do feel welcome here, thank you Powderhorn.

I didn't say that.

That's a false equivalent, Black History Month is a full month, TDoV is one day.

No one is suggesting a total ban on speech. We’re pointing out the difference between participating in a conversation and directing it. The goal of a day like TDoV is for trans people to be the subject of the conversation, rather than the audience for someone else’s memories. Recognizing that distinction isn't absurd, it's just basic respect for the purpose of the day.

I think there’s a misunderstanding about the intent here. Asking for space on TDOV isn’t meant as an attack, but as a boundary. Support shouldn't be conditional on a community being perfectly polite while they're asking to be heard. Telling a marginalized group they aren't doing themselves any favors by setting boundaries on their own visibility day feels more like a lecture than allyship.