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I just had a meeting with HR. So for context, the past year or so has been kinda rough at work with anxiety, depression, and ADHD meds that no longer seem to work quite as well as they had been for the previous 20 years. So when stress got the better of me, I made some stupid mistakes, and made a snarky comment or two on Teams. I've actually been feeling burned out off and on for several years, but I do still get some satisfaction from coding, even after 13 years at the same company with glowing performance reviews.

Anyway, today I was given a choice: Take a severance package and leave, or stay with a performance improvement plan. Honestly not sure what I want. I feel like all I needed was was some time to recover from a particularly stressful project. I could've been fine. But instead I get an ultimatum and two fucking days to decide.

I've saved a decent amount of money over the years, so it might not be the worst thing for me to cash out and let someone else deal with the bullshit I'd be leaving behind. I would love to work part time and focus on my game dev project(s). On the other hand, health insurance is fucking expensive, and I'm going to miss being able to donate "a few thousand dollars" to my church's food pantry without needing to worry about myself at all.

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[–] princess@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 6 days ago

that's a rough choice on a tight timeline

if you're open to suggestions: take the severance package

anecdotally (including my own anecdatum) a PIP is just a step in building a case for constructive dismissal, especially if your workplace is a factor in your burnout. do you really want to have to work even harder for a chance at staying there?

take some time to recover from burnout (even if it means having less funds for a bit), then try and find something to do for employment thay doesn't suck so hard

myself, I chose disappearing in the bureaucracy of a multinational enterprise for a reduced salary and title. getting away with only a few hours of work most days, and spending the rest of the time living my life

[–] MakingWork@lemmy.ca 4 points 6 days ago

Do you have sorry term or long term disability covered? If so, take that for sure leave and anxiety.

It should give you time to think about your options and often is paid a percentage of your salary.

PIPs I've seen people succeed but it depends on the company and leaders. Severance gets you out with money to find a new job.

[–] neuroneiro@lemmy.world 30 points 1 week ago

Having gone through similar, I’d recommend the severance.

In my experience & what I’ve heard from others’, improvement plans are usually used to justify firing.

In my case, everything changed when I was put on one. My coworkers began to avoid me, the principal (I was a teacher in a crazy wealthy silicon valley city) was always breathing down my neck, & I ended up losing the spark teachers need to be effective.

My case also included disability discrimination which I continue to fight (5 years later) so it might be a bit more complicated. In any event, once you’re identified as a threat to the organization’s stability life there gets real tough real fast. & it doesn’t end.

[–] DScratch@sh.itjust.works 25 points 1 week ago (1 children)

If you’re on a PIP, it’s going to take a literal miracle to succeed.

Take the sevvy, get your head straightened out and talk about how you left this job to focus on your mental health in your next interview.

[–] Sergio@piefed.social 9 points 1 week ago

talk about how you left this job to focus on your mental health in your next interview.

In my experience, it's better to talk about how you wanted to take some time to focus on a project (like the game dev projects mentioned) or education (even if it's just an online class, or something at the local community college.) ex:

  • "yeah, working at HeartlessBastardsCo was great, but recently I wanted to take a couple months off to really focus on my game development project and see how far I could take it. And then finally the time was right."
  • "I kinda wanted to study [some topic] but work always took a priority. So I decided to step away from HeartlessBastardsCo and take an online course on [some topic] to help develop my skillset."

@extramedicated@lemmy.world

[–] Maeve@kbin.earth 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Can you do or redirect what you do at work as a consultant?

[–] ExtraMedicated@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago

Perhaps, but I'm not sure I'd want to.