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We had to put my baby boy down (lemmy.world)
submitted 2 weeks ago* (last edited 1 week ago) by Mr_lobber_lobber@lemmy.world to c/dogs@lemmy.world
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For all the people that responded to my post some days ago. thanks again for all your kind words

Some sort of tumor on his 6th neck vertebrae had almost disintegrated it. He would have been in to much pain even if he managed to heal it.

Our vet came home to us and helped him on his way. We were there the hole way and i felt his little heart stop.

We buried him in the front yard yesterday...this summer i will plant peas on his grave...he loved them

He was only 8 months old...we had him for 6 months

My heart is broken and i will never forget you Marley. I love you my little baby boy.

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Thank you all for your kind words❤️ i hope you all have a new year full of love and happiness

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[–] 14th_cylon@lemmy.zip 52 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

thank you for not prolonging his suffering, it is hard decision to make. sorry for your loss.

https://i.imgur.com/Qi7Y2aj.jpeg

[–] MnemonicBump@lemmy.dbzer0.com 17 points 2 weeks ago

This made me weep. Thank you :)

[–] GuyFawkes@sh.itjust.works 21 points 2 weeks ago

I’m so sorry for you loss. From that picture alone I can tell you gave him a great life. ❤️

[–] el_twitto@lemmy.world 16 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

I am so sorry for your loss. I've had two British Golden Retrievers from the same breeder that developed the exact same tumor and had to be put down. I will never again get a dog from that breeder and will likely never again get a purebred dog because of things like this.

[–] Whirling_Ashandarei@lemmy.world 11 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I'm sorry you had to learn this lesson in such a painful way, as this is why people advocate to ban breeders. "Purebred" is a myth and the dogs bred for those "desirable" looks are often so inbred that their family tree would resemble a circle.

Breeders are usually scummy and do not care about the long term health of the dog, as they are a means of making money and little more.

[–] GiantChickDicks@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 week ago

Absolutely. I'd also like to add that people who insist on a certain breed can usually find a great breed-specific rescue to work with. I also see lots of breeds you wouldn't expect pop up in shelters and all breed rescues. I wasn't expecting to get a "purebred" dog myself, but a German shepherd was transported to the shelter I was working at, and we fell in love. It usually requires more work than buying a dog, but the rewards for yourself, your community, and that dog's life make it all well worth it.

[–] NOT_RICK@lemmy.world 9 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

My state is moving to make it illegal to sell dogs, cats, and rabbits. I’ll be interested to see if it passes and if so, what kind of impact it has on shelters’ adoption rates.

[–] 14th_cylon@lemmy.zip 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

can you share any details? what country is that? how would that work? where would dogs come from, if they couldn't be bred for money?

[–] NOT_RICK@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago (2 children)

New Jersey in the US. I just looked for an update and it looks like it has been tabled after some pushback.

[–] RebekahWSD@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

We were doing what now? Hm. I need to pay more attention.

Cats just appear though so I think cats will keep appearing and demanding humans.

[–] 14th_cylon@lemmy.zip 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

thank you for the reply.

while i in general agree with the idea of general regulation (just breed enough dogs that the shelters stay empty and not more than x litters per bitch), i think operators of unethical puppy mills should be hanged and i wouldn't be opposed to banning certain breeds (like the ones that were bred to the point where they can't breath and we call that cute), banning the sell for money seems strange - and not only because it would be quite easy to circumvent.

[–] AbsolutelyClawless@piefed.social 2 points 1 week ago

Family recently looked after a frenchie and 1) the labored breathing noises were upsetting to listen to, I felt bad for the dog, and 2) one of my dogs kept misinterpreting those noises as growling/aggression. 0/10, would never want to have a brachycephalic breed with the number of health issues they have and suffering it brings them.

[–] saltesc@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

Part of going to a breeder is they are able to show you the family tree and advise on what dogs have been bred in or bred out and why.

I talk to mine once a year because they call up to check in on the doggos. They also have group chats for each litter.

That's kind of like dog breeding 101; keeping an eye on the litters so they can identify good and bad traits, shaping future litters around that. So, I'm able to tell them what traits, personality, and fitness I'm needing in my next dog, and they are able to tell me when they're next planning a litter from dogs like that, or refer me to another good breeder.

If you're not needing to do any of this and are just after a pet doggo, then there's really not much point of going to a breeder. And if a breeder isn't like this, they're likely just in it for quick money and you and the dogs suffer. Unfortunately there's quite a lot of "puppy farm" fuckheads out there.

[–] BreadOven@lemmy.world 13 points 2 weeks ago

I'll just say sorry for your loss, and thank you for not prolonging his suffering. I can't put into words how hard it is losing a dog/any pet really.

[–] remedia@piefed.social 10 points 2 weeks ago

You gave him a good life, and all he knew was love. You letting him move on when it became necessary was a brave thing to do, and objectively the right thing.

[–] Andonyx@lemmy.world 7 points 2 weeks ago

You made the time he had special and full of love. And one day, whenever that is, the bond you had will help make another dog's life wonderful. Peace to you both.

[–] manxu@piefed.social 7 points 2 weeks ago

I've been where you are and I am so sorry for your loss. It can't ease the pain, but it sounds like Marley had the best friend in you, who looked out for him until his very end. Thank you for being there for him.

[–] kmartburrito@lemmy.world 7 points 2 weeks ago

Oh my goodness, so young. I'm so sorry you lost him. Thank you for being in his life!

[–] TheLastOfHisName@piefed.social 6 points 1 week ago

My sincerest condolences on your loss. Dogs are simply the best. They teach us how to love.

[–] NOT_RICK@lemmy.world 6 points 2 weeks ago

So sorry for your loss, OP. It’s not fair how short of a time we get with our best friends. Rest easy in the comfort that you gave him a great life in his short time here

[–] desmosthenes@lemmy.world 6 points 2 weeks ago

hold tight to those memories; they’ll be cherished - I like to build little shrines using their favorite toys / photos of them - kinda like Day of the Dead in Mexico, beautiful way to pay respects and keep them in your life

[–] GiantChickDicks@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 week ago

I am so sorry you've lost your beautiful boy at such a young age. Saying goodbye to our beloved pets is always awful, but you both were tragically robbed of many years of memories. I can't imagine how difficult this must be for you and your family. I wish you all peace and healing as you grieve.

After you've had some time to process, I would recommend reaching out to the breeder with the veterinary records. At the bare minimum they should know what health concerns are in their lines, and it may help another family avoid what you're going through. Cancer is very common in Goldens, but even moreso for English creams and other newer color variants. Best case scenario the breeder will have their dams and sires undergo genetic testing and stop breeding dogs with health concerns, but if not, they deserve to be dragged for knowingly breeding and placing dogs who are more likely to live short, painful lives.

[–] FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world 5 points 2 weeks ago

Good on you for thinking of your fur baby instead of yourself. I like to think our pups don't die but ascend to godhood, personally.

[–] Whirling_Ashandarei@lemmy.world 5 points 2 weeks ago

Aw man, I'm sorry for your loss. Just lost my girl, she was old and it was her time, but I mourn with you.

A while back I lost my other girl way too young to cancer, so I know how much worse it is when they're stolen away from you like that. But, they're pain free now, and to prolong the suffering would only be cruelty, you did the right thing.

[–] Anissem@lemmy.ml 4 points 2 weeks ago

I’ve lost dogs before for terrible reasons, so my heart goes out to you. Sorry for your loss

[–] fonecokid@c.im 0 points 1 week ago

@Mr_lobber_lobber :bl70: :bd19: