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[–] Evotech@lemmy.world 22 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Meanwhile, one of the most popular show recently was euphoria

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[–] i_simp_4_tedcruz@lemmy.world 20 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I just hate the wet noises that accompany it. Same thing with kissing scenes where they have a shotgun mic basically inside their mouths. It drives my sensory issues up a wall.

[–] DAMunzy@lemmy.dbzer0.com 11 points 1 year ago

Macaroni and cheese time!

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[–] wavebeam@lemmy.world 18 points 1 year ago (9 children)

Lots of people in here talking about how sex scenes suck, and they’re right. But I think we should also consider this: decades of focus on abstinence education and evolving parental and institutional surveillance has been successful at making young people have less sex. And now the olds, having achieved their mission, are confused about why the kids are having less sex and making less babies and the media they are creating and consuming is reflecting that.

[–] kandoh@reddthat.com 17 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I think the reason why is the easy access to pornography.

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[–] GladiusB@lemmy.world 14 points 1 year ago

That has nothing to do with less children. It's a known thing in biology that animals are fully aware of critical mass and adjust their mating for the conditions.

Every single industrialized country has reduced birth rates because of child mortality, financial stability, and many other reasons that go with it.

There is no one that didn't have a kid because of a movie. That's just ludicrous.

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[–] npz@lemm.ee 18 points 1 year ago

Different times. When I was growing up, a sex scene in a movie might be one of very few opportunities where you got to see a pair of boobs, unless you could get someone to buy you a porno magazine or VHS tape. These days, there are probably millions of options in this area, instantly accessible. And Hollywood-produced nude/sex scenes are all going to be fake and cringy in comparison.

[–] TwistedTurtle@monero.town 16 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (19 children)

Apparently I'm the only one that likes being titillated by movies. I don't get the "it adds nothing to the plot" complaint. Tons of movies have action scenes and gratuitous violence that add nothing to the plot, yet i don't see complaints about that. 90% of John Wick is gratuitous violence that added nothing to the plot, but I still love it.

I think this says more about American prudishness and people's unhealthy attitudes towards sex than anything.

Bunch of unnecessary death? Cool and fun! An unnecessary titty? Awkward and gratuitous.

Fuck all of you. I want more nudity and sex in my movies and the comparative lack of it compared to the 80s and 90s feels like we're going out of our way to exclude a huge part of life from art because it makes the prudes out there uncomfortable. But those same people are happy to watch nameless dudes get creatively and graphically killed for half a movie's run time.

I want more gratuitous sex and less gratuitous moral pandering

[–] Smoogs@lemmy.world 8 points 1 year ago (7 children)

After reading the article it looks like they aren’t being prude. They just wanted to see more healthier relationship spectrums. I think that’s a fair call. Not all story points have to be about sex.

Plus representation matters.

There are asexuals. And many other sexuality types in the world. Violence is not making a point on that so I don’t know where you’re going with that.

There is also echoing healthier relationships between men and women. I’ve known far too many people who cry friendzone and watch complete shit like friends and HIMYM and the various sitcoms that echo very dehumanizing, simplistic, unhealthy relationships between men and women where they stubbornly won’t relate to each other and sexuality is used as a tolerance or payoff of each other’s existence.

So whiile we could debate gratuitous violence has an impact, I think bad relationships and how they have been presented as a template has had a different impact they are trying to discuss.

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[–] ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com 16 points 1 year ago (7 children)

I gave up on movies in like '09. No I do not want to see your 5,000th Marvel movie or remake of an 80s movie, regardless of sex scenes, thanks.

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[–] h3mlocke@lemm.ee 15 points 1 year ago (3 children)
[–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world 8 points 1 year ago (2 children)

A fucking men is the problem.

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[–] Silverseren@kbin.social 14 points 1 year ago (3 children)

This seems unlikely considering the massive number of popular teen romance shows happening, such as Heartstopper. It's just that any sex scenes need to have actual depth behind them when they happen, not just random sex out of nowhere.

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[–] anewbeginning@lemmy.world 13 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I’m gen y and I agree. Skip the shitty softcore.

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[–] z7h99ctr@leminal.space 13 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I'd personally prefer that if they aren't allowed to show it they not bother. All this does is make watching with family uncomfortable or possibly if your aware of the scene beforehand prevent watching it with family at all.

Assuming i'm not trying to watch it with family I prefer my content uncensored, like they can say fuck if they want to or fuck if they want or actually be seen nude after a shower instead being censored in some form.

Even when I am watching things with family i'd prefer they just not did things they'd have to censor than taint it with censorship.

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[–] Tischkante@discuss.tchncs.de 11 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Out of all movies with sex scenes in it, I only like the one in Crank.

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[–] Olap@lemmy.world 11 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Y'all need to go fuck some more. Films like La La Land are really missing something without a sex scene, the chemistry feels really fake and the relationship isn't believable.

Sex is normal. Sex is good. Sex in films is necessary to convey intensity which a pan from bed shot can never achieve.

Great example: Terminator. Without this scene the whole franchise fails. The film doesn't have the gravitas when John does die without it. And it's a highly charged emotional reaction to the harrowing events they have both just been through.

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[–] FringeTheory999@lemmy.world 10 points 1 year ago

I’m just sick of hollywood shoehorning a romance into every story. Not every story needs a romance, and most of the romances in movies are cliche and unnecessary.

[–] Sombyr@lemmy.one 10 points 1 year ago

As someone on the far older end of gen Z or the far younger end of millenial, depending on where you draw the line:

I hate sex scenes. I have some personal issues however that may affect my judgment. Trauma and such. Don't wanna see sex unless I was fully mentally prepared for it, which I just can't be if it's shoved into some random movie, regardless of if you warn me in advance.

It might seem odd, but I wonder if the almost unavoidable overexposure to porn from a very young age elicits a similar response in a lot of younger people. The fact that for a lot of your life, sex is a forbidden thing you have to sneak around to indulge in, and which the one form you have exposure to, porn, carries the risk of addiction. It seems like it'd leave an impression on your mind that it's a scary thing you have to hide, which I could see eliciting some kind of trauma response when suddenly it's everywhere and you're still stuck feeling like you have to hide it.

[–] 31415926535@lemm.ee 9 points 1 year ago

Gen x, i think, here. Sex alone does nothing for me. Nudity does nothing. I'm attracted more to people, subtlety, long, slow seductions.

Most sex I see in tv, movies, is ridiculous. Like, 2 people have been flirting for weeks. One day, chance meeting, they kiss. RIGHT THEN, right after the first kiss, they immediately start taking their clothes off.

Seriously, who does that?

Some of the best sex can be if you have your clothes on.

Also, too many fantasy TV shows have characters who can't touch other people cuz demon in them, physically touching someone means they'll lose control, whatever. So they go around miserable, horny, unrequited love and all that. Which to me shows failure of imagination. Sex can be imaginative, creative, so much variety, possibility. Phone sex, mutual self masturbation, why not work those options into the plot?

But no, in movies and TV, its almost always: kiss, clothes come right off, completely naked, always in a bed, orgasm in 5 minutes. Real life is way more complex than that.

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