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I broke up with my girlfriend!! (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 9 hours ago by religion6614@sh.itjust.works to c/goodoffmychest@lemmy.world

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Now, I have a chance to work more on myself. I don’t think I was right for her or to have any sort of commitment. Plus, I couldn’t even appreciate the things that made her happy. I apologized but I felt so bad.

I just wanted to stop talking and leave her on read and not answer her calls but I felt too bad, but I don’t have to anymore now that we’re broken up. I don’t have to be there for her and commit to anything. I can play video games, watch TV, do what I want now.

I’m sad that we can’t call and watch TV together, but I was too unhealthy and I acknowledge that I need to work on myself. I love her but we can’t answer each other’s texts every second. I tried to be there for her, I just can’t. I hope she finds someone better and I can work on myself.

I won’t have to post about me being a shitty boyfriend because I’m no longer a boyfriend. Plus, I think she’s losing feelings for me. It will all work out in the end, it is what it is.

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[–] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 2 points 3 hours ago

Good for you for being responsible about getting out if you know it’s not the right fit. Good for you for wanting to work on yourself. I wish you the best.

[–] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 16 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

You're not a shitty boyfriend. Sometimes people are just incompatible. Work on yourself, but also seek out relationships with people that accept you for you, and aren't stressed about whether you respond immediately. It also helps to find someone who makes you want to immediately respond to their texts.

[–] religion6614@sh.itjust.works 2 points 7 hours ago

Thanks!!!!

[–] putitoutwithyourbootsted@piefed.social 2 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

Sounds like she may have some work to do on herself, too. I’m not sure having the expectation that someone text back immediately at all times is status quo. Whatever the case, glad you are in a better place now!

[–] religion6614@sh.itjust.works 2 points 7 hours ago

No, she doesn’t expect it, I just feel bad. Thanks!!