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Fancy cupcakes are 70% icing, really not that nice and a waste of money

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[–] applemao@lemmy.world 16 points 6 days ago (2 children)

Analog media was better and more fair to artists, and easier to make money off of (why sell an album when people will stream it), and allowed people to become more intelligent and involved music fans. The digitization and non stop consumption of media cheapened it. Not to mention, I'd bet 90% of young Americans have never heard a good home stereo that actually represents how the music is supposed to sound.

And no, I'm not 80 years old!

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[–] Skua@kbin.earth 24 points 6 days ago (2 children)

Probably a literal one, I like hillwalking and am clumsy

Metaphorically, it's guitar tonewoods. If you've got a solidbody electric guitar you can make the body out of a goddamn breezeblock and it'll sound absolutely fine. Whatever difference the body/neck material makes is negligible compared to strings, scale length, pickups, resistors, and amps. Acoustic guitars are another matter, but for solidbody electrics it is 99% delusion and marketing

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[–] Ilixtze@lemm.ee 4 points 4 days ago (1 children)

The contemporary disdain for postmodernism was a Psy op designed to completely destroy philosophy from the inside. And the supposed replacements for post modernism (metamodernism or whatever) were just pop culture millennial distractions that just took attention away from the philosophical issues of the inadequacies of language and crisis of our communications systems. We became stuck in limbo. Cultural conversation dumbed down by useless culture wars articulated in low attention span pop culture commentary and therapy speak.

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[–] absGeekNZ@lemmy.nz 22 points 6 days ago (4 children)

Hard agree, fancy cakes are all looks, taste is secondary.

Give me an ugly tasty cake every damn time!

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[–] DrDystopia@lemy.lol 7 points 5 days ago

The really steep one that'll give me a heart attack.

[–] GraniteM@lemmy.world 13 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (4 children)

Starship Troopers isn't a smart movie pretending to be a dumb movie, it's a moderately intelligent movie with pretensions of being a smart movie pretending to be a dumb movie.

Robocop, on the other hand, is a masterpiece.

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[–] RizzRustbolt@lemmy.world 7 points 5 days ago (1 children)

The big Costco muffins were 1000x better than the new ones.

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[–] Allonzee@lemmy.world 13 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (3 children)

Sexuality is the point.

We spend a lot of time pursuing staggeringly and self-evidently pointless and stupid shit while suppressing and teaching being ashamed of sex and sexuality, to the point many just categorize their sexuality under potential trauma if engaged.

If we spent a lot less time grinding for nothing of import and more time fucking one another rather than fucking one another over for paper simulacra of supposed value, our species would be far more well adjusted. Even the difference between less prudish Europe and the puritanical US in general mental health is extremely apparent.

The way we treat sex, as something to shame behind close doors rather than celebrate, as we glorify plastic and silicon garbage, is beyond ridiculous and leads to shame and trauma in girls who become women and anger and resentment in boys that become men. We aren't economic value producing machines, we're fucking machines. We denied that at our peril, and now very few are happy with the state of things. Breathtakingly bad priorities.

[–] KelvarIW@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 5 days ago (2 children)

I'd extrapolate this priorities conversation from "sex" to pleasure. Hobbies, video games, casually socializing, and sex as you said. Obviously different people enjoy different activities to different extents. But this greater conversation is the hill I will die on.

USAmericans society has retained this conservative/puritanical idea that your work is your life, "idle hands are the devil's plaything", and everything else: vacations, video games, hobbies, sex... is a way to "unwind" so you can get back to work. The way we talk about these endeavors is truly depressing. We categorize and judge people based on "What do you do for work?", and hobbies and other entertainment is reserved for those truly close to us. Steve, who works in Accounting, might hate his job and only live for MTG Arena, but most conversations will steer toward How he survives rather than Why. Even sex and romance has been relegated to a systematic process, talked about and hijacked by consumerism more as a way to advance social standing, than for love or pleasure. Date (buy food), Engagement (buy ring), Marriage (fund ceremony, buy ring). And this is without any legal framework that requires that or prohibits casual hookups/co-habitation.

This whole "side-hustle", "grindset", "become the brand" extremist capitalist bullshit grates my sanity every time I hear it. That is what I believe creates the mental health difference "less prudish Europe" and "puritanical US", as you pointed out. I believe the idea vision of society is where we automate as much of our necessary processes as possible, implement a comfortable UBI, and pay people a good amount for filling those positions. Why the rest of society doesn't think that is beyond me.

After all, human society is made by humans, for humans. It should not be geared for labor machines.

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[–] superkret@feddit.org 13 points 6 days ago (20 children)

There should be a general speed limit of 20mph/30kmh on city streets.
Also no parking on public space for any vehicle that isn't for deliveries, emergencies, trades, or people with disabilities.
If you want to park your car at home, or want your customers or employees to park near your business, you need to buy or rent space for parking privately.
Any citizen documenting a parking infraction with photo evidence should have the option of giving police their bank details and will then receive part of the paid fine.
Of course there will be valid exceptions, like a private emergency, moving, a woman in labor, and such.

Just imagine what our cities could be like if there weren't long rows of cars parked along every street.
The freed space could be turned into bicycle lanes, wider sidewalks, outdoor seating for cafes, green lanes, urban gardens and so much more.
Car lanes could be separated from bike paths and sidewalks by hedges in most places.
Children could play and move safely in public.

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[–] Etterra@discuss.online 3 points 4 days ago

That exclusive content in physical games is a cruel disservice to late discoverers. "Exclusive" content should just be delayed public release content instead - something for the early adopters, but not unavailable to people years later.

Even just the normal game, if they're discontinuing production, should be made available as a digital purchase (including STL and print-ready files) for people coming along years later. We have the technology to not screw over potential future fans, and it's not that expensive to keep a small website running - especially if they're still going as a company. Looking at you, CMON Games.

[–] glimse@lemmy.world 14 points 6 days ago (5 children)

Johnny Cash's cover of Hurt doesn't deserve the praise it gets. If anyone else recorded it, no one would care. His singing sounds bad.

And to add to it, it's a song about drug addiction and depression....but the music video is a highlight real of how awesome Cash's life was.

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[–] t_berium@lemmy.world 8 points 5 days ago

They only got the Predator's mandibles right in the first movie.

[–] banazir@lemmy.ml 14 points 6 days ago (1 children)

CDs are better than vinyl.

[–] piccolo@sh.itjust.works 15 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

Not true, everytime i put a cd on a record player, it ends up all scratched up.

[–] shaserlark@sh.itjust.works 10 points 6 days ago (3 children)

Spanish food sucks! Although I think I already died in that hill today.

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