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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/ProfessionalOlive684 on 2023-07-26 19:50:48+00:00.

My daughters Kate(16F) and Bella(16F) both had their 16th birthday this summer and their parties were different. By January, Kate had managed to get into 2 fights a school and got herself entangled into a bunch of drama. Bella was her partner in crime and had gotten into one fight and gotten suspended for cheating.

I was sick of their antics and told them that they needed to get their acts together. I told them they were to stay away from boys for a while and focus their energy into something productive. I said that for every infraction, I would be taking some money out of their sweet 16 budget. Bella had been planning her 16th birthday since she turned 15. She took my threat seriously and improved her grades significantly and started hanging out with better friends. She lost some money from her party, but she was able to put in some of her own money to cover the difference. Kate on the other hand didn't listen to me at all. I explained why she was losing money for every dollar that I deducted. Eventually her budget was down to about a 10th of what Bella was getting.

We go to plan the parties and Bella gets her dream party. We only had enough money to throw a small get together with around 15 people at our house for Kate's party. Kate was in tears when she found out this was her party. Kate's party was still really good. We got an expensive cake, we connected her phone to our expensive sound system, we had a lot of decorations and everything set up. It just wasn't as glamorous or big as Bella's party.

After the parties were done, one of the parents posted pictures of both parties with a caption that read "not hard to see who is the favorite". I told the person to take their post down and to mind their own business. AITA for giving Bella a worse party?