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When I was younger, and as long as it wasn't my first beer, I'd have interpreted that as "I want some of what you've got" and been flattered. Probably some quip like "okay this round's on me but you're getting the next one".
But not everyone's flirtation styles line up, so be(e) kind to yourself. Make this time a joke to prepare the guy next time, and use their reaction to gauge whether the flirt will pay off (use your best judgment and be safe!). I'm glad you went out on a limb, and I think there'll be someone who can roll with what you're bringing
Thank you for the thoughtful comment and encouragement! Do you think there was anything that could be done to fix the situation once it happened? I'm a little worried how much it's been on my mind since it happened a few nights ago but it is definitely improving with time. I think I'm just feeling lonely romantically nowadays
To fix it? Maybe a "sorry, at least let me buy you a fresh beer" but we've all got those idiosyncracies that can change how we're feeling in a moment. I don't think it's all on you - there are myriad other ways he could have responded that might have given an opportunity to clear up the misunderstanding.
And besides, who's to say he's not doing the same thing you're doing, but saying "she was totally flirting with me and I froze, ugh"? But I also agree with some other folks in the thread about asking being the best option next time. Open up those lines of communication, and get yourself a second dance