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Every state in the US has a safe-haven law on the books. You can drop a baby off at nearly any firestation, sometimes in completely anonymous baby boxes, and absolve yourself of responsibility. It's literally easier to get rid of a child than it is student loan debt.
This is like the first 3 days after birth and we are also talking emotional connection that you don't have to the car.
What is even the point of your comment? Kids make life much more difficult is not a hot take at all.
...but thats states in the usa ...
WHAT ABOUT OTHER COUNTRIES?! What about certain municipalities in other countries thst have completely dofferent laws?!
Remember, this is the internet. The US is the only country. /s
Damn. Truth.
Just because it's technically possible – like, for example, murdering one's abuser is an option – doesn't mean it's something that most parents would be willing to consider. There's your bond with your child, there's empathy, there's guilt, there's family and friends judging you, and potentially cutting you off if you decide to do it, ... I'm sure there's places in the world where it's worse, or straight up illegal.
Yes, which circles back to my initial point: all the things I listed and more "trap" you in the same way. The emotions and repercussions you describe also apply to plenty of things beyond caring for a child. Parenthood is not the unique trap that OP's post implies.
OP states the entrapment of "people depending on you" which is uniquely different from the other things you've mentioned. With aging parents, it depends on the culture and retirement support given by the state, but then again, they brought you into this world, not the other way around. With a partner, I could see a case being made if said partner is disabled. But with kids, you are (typically) the reason they're here.