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I can only do things when stressed, nothing else works (lemmy.zip)

submitted 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) by gzgz@lemmy.zip to c/adhd@lemmy.world

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I cannot function without stress. I don't work better under stress, I can ONLY work if I'm stressed. So all my life I'm rushing and hurrying artificially even if there is no objective reason to do that. This model was working great for me all my life until now when I'm in my twenties and my body is collapsing with GERD, proctological issues, bruxism, headaches, tinnitus, fibromyalgia... They say, "Oh, you just have to do things based on novelty and interes" but bitch you cannot make EVERYTHING interesting and new. When I start to give a fuck about everything and relax I end up doing no shit. And honestly I don't know what to do. The meds they were giving me just cause the same stress artificially elevating my noradrenaline and the evening crush is even worse compared to days when I'm stressing myself on my own means. I feel myself in a "stress yourself out and die or don't do anything and die as well" situation... Psychiatrist and meds, psychologist, supplements, weekly meetings in ADHD support group, physical activity, good sleep, good nutrition, all these ergonomical lifehacks like "pomodoro", "make the task easy", "just divide the task into subtasks", "reward yourself", "body double", "listen to podcasts while cleaning" etc... All this shit is not working. There is no brand new method left that I haven‘t tried and I'm deeply frustrated. I can only stress myself out until my body completely desintegrates. Just venting

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[–] Lag@piefed.world 11 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

What helped me, is to realize that those chores can feel good to do, if your body feels good first. My issue was that I forget that I can feel okay in the first place because I'm always behind on everything including sleep. Since lack of sleep clouds my judgement and hurts me this much, now I prioritize it more so I started doing quick 2min workouts at home to get better sleep (load a backpack with books if you don't have weights). I still struggle with getting enough sleep, but the quality of sleep is seriously a game changer when your muscles don't subconsciously ache and make you restless in your sleep. That 2min is the difference between me enjoying my weekend and relaxing vs. laying in bed stressed and not getting anything done which continues the cycle for next week.

[–] nicky7@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I'm glad you found something that works for you!

Would you mind elaborating on your workout? When and what primarily. e.g. What are you doing with the backpack full of weights, and are you doing this when you wake up, just before bed, just before chores, etc.

[–] Lag@piefed.world 1 points 3 weeks ago

Thanks, I hope everyone can find physical activities that work for them. If you don't use your muscles you lose them. I change it up depending on muscle group throughout the week but it's mostly just basic curls, overheads, squats, sometimes lawnmower pull type workouts for the back. I invested in an adjustable dumbell recently but there's very little difference between that and a backpack. Any time day would benefit me but it's easier to get started in the evening when I'm worrying about sleep for the next day again.