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Does emotional control matter even as a Autistic person? (nord.pub)
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This is what happened to me when I was younger whilst on vacation: I hate fast paced environments where a real time reaction response is required (like having to hurry up during airport security when there’s a long line of people) since I’m the type of person who likes to do things at my own speed. My anxiety reached a breaking point during that moment alongside my temper flaring but I had to maintain composure.

I was trying my hardest to be fast as possible but my parents were like “HURRY UP! PEOPLE ARE WAITING!” since you can’t take forever stalling other people behind (it was just after airport security and metal detection) and the officers working there kind of acted the same. I can’t just lash out since there are repercussions for doing so, since it’s kind of like yelling at a cop who may charge you with verbal assault.

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[–] Arcanepotato@crazypeople.online 3 points 5 days ago

I can’t just lash out since there are repercussions for doing so

Is your question "does being autistic provide protection from negative repercussions from lashing out"? If so, I think you have already identified it does not, unfortunately.

I totally get how infuriating this situation is. I'd be losing my mind too. I don't mean to put words in your mouth but I'd question if it's a matter of

I’m the type of person who likes to do things at my own speed

versus not being able to go faster because of executive function limitations or other features of autism. I know if I'm rushed I make a lot of mistakes and really simple things become super hard. For example, even gathering the things I need to shower (towel, razor, is the body wash bottle empty?, did I take off my jewelry? Is my hair bushed if I'm washing it? Tied up tightly if not?) can take a few tries if I'm rushing and I can get more flustered with each thing I need to redo. And if someone was telling me to hurry up? My persistent demand for autonomy would be GOING OFF.

It sounds like it might have been your parents pushing you. I don't have helpful advice for that, nor am I sure you are asking for it. I'm sorry they are not understanding, that sucks.

With other people I find that sometimes I am assuming they are judging or annoyed and am actually often wrong about it (I'm being self conscious). I'll sometimes explain that I have a disability that makes x task challenging and ask for their patience. The specifics I mention depend on the context, but maybe in a situation like this I'd say to the airport staff, "hey, I have a condition that makes getting my stuff together quickly challenging, is there somewhere I can stand that's out of the way?" That way they know you aren't just being inconsiderate or whatever other reason they might be annoyed at and maybe they will control the speed of people coming after you to avoid a bottleneck on the other side of the detectors. They would be patient with people with visible disabilities (hopefully), so making them aware can help. This is hard to do if you are not expecting to get flustered because by the time it happens, it's hard to use words and not just get upset.

I think you can mention autism (or limitations) in order to explain why it's taking longer and hopefully get some grace, but I don't think it would result in a better outcome if only used to explain lashing out.