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Bullshit jobs? (sh.itjust.works)
submitted 3 weeks ago by schipelblorp@sh.itjust.works to c/autism@lemmy.world
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I just started working at a fast food restaurant and am really just blown away by how much rewarding it is that my last job working at a social welfare agency "helping people." There is almost ALWAYS something to do AND my work can be objectively measured, two things untrue of my last job.

I'm trying to figure out what I want out of life, and work, and career, and I think this is really important to me: I actually need to be DOING something, something that I have direct control over, and something that I don't NEED to say, "Look what a good job I did" because it is transparent.

Part of the reason I think this is important to me is if these requirements are NOT met, then the job is essentially convincing OTHERS that you are good at your job and/or that they like you. If what you do is opaque, unclear, or hard to measure, you have to constantly be policing the social narrative around yourself and your work--two things I have absolutely no interest (or ability?) in doing.

What's been your experience?

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[–] schipelblorp@sh.itjust.works 1 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Your piano teacher sounds great. I wonder who taught him to teach that way and if he had to survive a music education.

My breakthrough was teaching myself to play melodies by ear. It really frees you up on an instrument because you can play anything you can hear. I'm teaching myself to play the clarinet and having a blast, but I do a lot of singing and playing on guitar.

I'd be curious if you could love violin or piano again. They're wonderful instruments and you have all those skills, you just need to burn through your PTSD and make a personal connection.

[–] groucho@retrolemmy.com 1 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Yeah. I do some piano because I bought a little Korg synthesizer to mess around with. Violin is rough. I got it out to play some bluegrass with the family a few years ago and had to put it back down because I was shaking. Honestly, I had a decent teacher but she was strict and setting up kids for a career in performance. I used to dread recitals. And my mom was worse. She'd critique everything I was doing, down to the faces I made during the song. I ended up playing for the aforementioned community orchestra in college and wasn't able to practice because of my courseload. Got called out by the conductor about it and just walked away.

Oh well, maybe some day I'll pick it back up. In the meantime, I can play stoner/doom metal or write chiptune music and enjoy myself.

[–] schipelblorp@sh.itjust.works 1 points 3 weeks ago

Sounds horrible. I guess it's a blessing I dropped out of piano lessons when I did, though I´d always thought it a curse.

I have a theory that a lot of what we teach kids is just to get them to compete for entrance to college and scholarships. Once they've reached or failed to reach that goal, they completely abandon whatever it was they were doing. That's no way to raise children.

I took a few lessons with a clarinet teacher. His advertising talks a lot about how his students qualify and win competitions. I remember him talking to a little girl who wanted to learn a piece from How I Tamed My Dragon and he insisted she get the sheet music so he could teach it to her. That is, the only way he was willing to teach her to interact with the music was to read it. Disgusting and vile.

My projects on guitar are mostly adapting songs I like to some kind of fingerstyle arrangement. I actually don't play almost any song "like on the record". I think "Blackbird" by the Beatles is the only song I can play that way. I wonder what's wrong with me that I don´t want to imitate anyone directly--that seems to be the main motivation for most guitar players. And on clarinet, I find myself drawn more to imitating singers than other clarinet players. Something about music in the abstract, I guess, or maybe I just don´t have the patience or skill...