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Now that you know, are there any indicators of this in her behavior or demeanor that you recognize in hindsight? If you can find something like that, then it would be an opportunity to talk to her without revealing that you read her diary.
It’s also possible that she left it there on purpose hoping you would read it. Or if not on purpose, per se, maybe subconsciously.
Yeah, so, when I think about it, her sense of humor has definitely gotten darker over time. But I always assumed it was because I already have a dark sense of humor, so it was just rubbing off on her.
As far as other behavior goes? She's truly the same woman I married, in every way. She still loves going to play mahjong with our friends, wants to go on hikes, basically all the activities we do, she actively wants to do them. There's no signs of her acting withdrawn. She asked me if we were going camping later this month, just yesterday. It's why I feel so blindsided. I know mental health issues have different symptoms for everyone, but how common is it for the only symptom to be kept in a journal?
Can you just...idk, get used to be depressed? Because if she really has felt like this for years and years, she's not acting like it.
I've had suicidal thoughts my entire life but they are intrusive thoughts and not something that I am likely to ever act upon. Not even passing thoughts, sometimes I think about it daily for weeks and it just sits there in the background and I've just learned to deal with it. I seriously doubt anyone thinks I have those thoughts.
Maybe she writes it down to get the thoughts under control and remind herself of why she shouldn't do it?
Some people do “get used to being depressed” I imagine, but for many it becomes intolerable over time. That said, many people mask it for looooooong periods of time.