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Dealing with 'i hate you' (fedia.io)

submitted 2 weeks ago by Hello_there@fedia.io to c/parenting@lemmy.world

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I have a 5yo who has started saying 'i hate you mommy/daddy' when they are really upset.
Would you let that chill - they don't mean it they're just kids and just upset? Or try to curb that - set consequences for hurtful language?

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[–] _fryerDan@sh.itjust.works 20 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

We started early on with the rule being "we dont hate people, we hate actions." It works to be able to reference that talk when we, the parents, want to say we hate something. That taught our kids that there are appropriate times for saying "hate"

[–] Viceversa@lemmy.world 5 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Well, I hate Putin 🤷

[–] phonics@lemmy.world 5 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Puttin' is an action. You gotta be puttin' that hate away.

[–] Viceversa@lemmy.world 2 points 2 weeks ago

I hardly know her!