Hi
I'm struggling for years already, being unable to hold a job or function in daily life without job.
It seems like I'm constantly in shutdown, and I can't even communicate my stress and desperation to a therapist because when I'm stressed, I stop expressing anything.
I also seem to forget anything that's even slightly emotionally charged. So even when I can express my emotion, 10 minutes after that conversation I have no clue anymore what I talked about.
Underlying all this seems to be some kind of fear of feeling my emotions. Anytime I feel something, I quickly notice that the feeling/thoughts disappear and I just feel numb and a headache or stomachache.
Even when I'm by myself, I can't seem to express any feelings, as If i'm trying to hide for myself.
And it seems like nobody knows how to deal with this. I've been to a few therapists and it all ends up the same. At the beginning i'm hopeful, but then after a few sessions I realise i'm getting more and more into a shutdown and express myself less and less until I eventually stop going.
Just searching for therapy seems pointless, because I don't have money left and nobody seems to understand my difficulties.
I'm trying to do that now, mostly because I am having serious pain in my neck and shoulders most of the time, so my doctor was basically forcing me to get moving.
I'm pretty sure it's helpful, but even slight exercise makes me feel so uncomfortable that I can't seem to keep up a habit. Especially not if there is nobody to push me to do it everyday.
That's very true. What I find helpful is trying to do some exercises that are fun for me. Like, for example if plain walking or running is boring and unbearable, then maybe something like rollerblading or skateboarding might be more fun. Or maybe the other way around :)
The tricky part here is to force yourself to try it at least once (and better twice), and also try to choose something that doesn't burn a hole in your wallet (like skiing, for example) — the guilt of not doing something you paid shit ton of money for enough doesn't help either :)
Yeah, I would very much like to get into something nice, but that requires money, and that requires working, and that requires me feeling well. So it's almost like a circular deadlock.
I also didn't try much, so I don't really know what I would like. I'm very ok with boring things though. I think because I'm always tense, even walking feels pretty intense, never boring.