I grew up in Guatemala. You might know its one of the most unequal countries in the world - you're either in the rich class or poor.
I don't have a degree, don't have professional level skills or business skills. I worked for everything I had, never had much money. But nothing too bad - usually had enough food.
Two years ago I met a gringa in a tourist spot. I'm good with girls and we ended up sleeping together that night. We are both in out mid-30s.
Then I found out she's married. Married tourist looking for some cock on vacation - old story.
She has a rich husband and three children. I think she is from a rich family and her husband is also from a rich family, so between them it's double-rich. She mentioned having "oil rights", she mentioned multiple homes (I think over 20 rental properties).
Since then, I have done little bits of social media work for her businesses - it is easy work anyone could do, just running the company's facebook page and stuff. Plus we see each other in the Caribbean/Latin America and sleeping together for a week here and there. Since two years. She started saying "I love you" six months ago.
One time she said, "something something.... because you've already made your money...". I didn't let my reaction show. She assumed I was in her social class!. Just because people assume their life is the normal life. It feels normal to her to have multiple houses and a million a year in passive income (or whatever number), she thinks everyone she meets is probably like that.
Now she is starting a business, has almost finished investor funding. I let her keep thinking I am rich, and I asked for a big salary for my social media role. She is offering me more money than anyone in my village ever had, plus a percentage of the company. If the company works, it could be millions of dollars. I have seen the contract now, and with luck we will sign in one or two months. I can't fuck it up now.
Yes this is a sin because it is adultery. But I have the opportunity on a plate. The only thing I've ever been good at and I can use it to climb the social ladder.
You're not almost home free and thinking like that is harmful to your future.
You will still have a relationship with her; by scared I mean scared of her husband finding out. Be VERY careful about who you tell about whatever evidence you have and limit the details you share here as well. Taking that route is likely to end poorly for everyone involved.
Make other, less dangerous plans as well. You need to consider and plan for several worst case scenarios. One plan is zero plans. Life is messy at the best of times and your situation is already messy.
Equity frequently has strings attached such as vesting periods or other sale restrictions. You may have to remain an employee for a certain period of time. The equity is only worth something if the company succeeds.
Consult with a lawyer familiar with contract law in the jurisdiction the company is registered in. Don't mention your evidence, don't mention the sex or cheating. All they need to know is that you are a professional entering into a business contract. Make sure the language in the contract is legal and determine several exit scenarios.
Facts: blackmail never ends well for anyone. Leveraging secrets ups the ante into very dangerous territory, even lethal. I hope OP gets out before that becomes an attractive solution, unwise and untenable as it is. ๐ค๐ผ
this is good advice