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[–] prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 6 days ago (1 children)

How much effort does it take to not use he/him though? Are you sure they're just saying they don't care so you don't feel bad about it?

I dunno, obviously I don't know you or your kid and you seem to be handling it much better than many would... It just seems weird to be so ambivalent to something so fundamental about your child.

[–] DaleGribble88@programming.dev 5 points 6 days ago (2 children)

I've had a good number of trans people in my classes over the years. I've frankly been shocked by the number of people who do not care if you guess their gender correctly. Obviously it isn't the norm, but they are out there.

[–] whoisearth@lemmy.ca 3 points 5 days ago

Also worth noting especially with younger people they can't disassociate online with offline.

[–] nore@sh.itjust.works 0 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I can't speak for everyone, but in my experience I'll not express anything externally when property/improperly gendered, but I'll still feel happy/sad when it happens.

[–] DaleGribble88@programming.dev 2 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Fair enough! I personally try to stick to preferred names and pronouns, but to err is human and I do make mistakes pretty often.

[–] nore@sh.itjust.works 2 points 4 days ago

Yeah, and I don't think any reasonable person will hold a grudge against a mistake.